Title: The Relationship Cure
Author: John M. Gottman
First published May 22, 2001
336 pages, Paperback
ISBN: 9780609809532 (ISBN10: 0609809539)
Rating: 4.06
Overview
Dr. John M. Gottman, the country’s foremost relationship expert, has cracked the code on how to turn troubled relationships into positive ones.
In his groundbreaking book, The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman introduces a simple, five-step program based on twenty years of innovative research, that will vastly improve all the relationships in your life. Whether it’s with your spouse or lover, children, siblings, or colleagues at work, Dr. Gottman’s program emphasizes the importance of emotional connection and introduces the powerful new concept of emotional “bids.” These emotional bids are the fundamental unit of emotional connection, and with Dr. Gottman’s remarkably empowering tools, you’ll learn how to bid for emotional connection and respond to others’ bids.
If you’re ready to build better connections with the people you care about, The Relationship Cure is the best book on relationships you’ll ever read.
About the Author
Meet John Mordecai Gottman, a renowned American psychological researcher and clinician with over four decades of experience studying divorce prediction and marital stability. He’s also an award-winning author, speaker, and professor emeritus in psychology.
Editoral Review
In his book, The Relationship Cure, John M. Gottman explores the complexities of human relationships and offers practical advice on how to strengthen them.
First published on May 22, 2001, Gottman’s work has become a classic in the field of interpersonal communications. Gottman is a world-renowned therapist and researcher on relationships.
He has spent over 40 years studying couples and has developed a method for predicting whether a marriage will last or not with 90% accuracy. In The Relationship Cure, Gottman expands on his research and offers strategies for building stronger relationships based on communication, understanding, and empathy.
The book is written in a clear and accessible style and is organized into three parts. The first part introduces the reader to Gottman’s research and his theory of emotional intelligence.
He explains how emotional intelligence can be used to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships, whether with a spouse, friend, or colleague. The second part focuses on practical exercises for improving communication, resolving conflicts, and deepening connections with others.
The third part explores how emotional intelligence can be applied in different contexts, such as the workplace or community settings. One of the strengths of The Relationship Cure is its emphasis on practical advice.
Gottman provides concrete examples of how to apply his methods to real-life situations, such as how to handle an argument with a spouse, how to express appreciation, or how to deal with a difficult boss. He also includes questionnaires and exercises that help the reader assess their own emotional intelligence and communication style.
The book’s main weakness is its repetition. Gottman’s method is based on a few key principles, and he tends to illustrate these principles with the same examples and anecdotes throughout the book.
While this repetition can be helpful for reinforcing the methods, it can also make the book feel a bit long-winded. Overall, however, The Relationship Cure is an excellent resource for anyone looking to improve their interpersonal relationships.
Gottman’s method is based on sound research and his advice is both practical and applicable. Whether you are struggling in your marriage, looking to deepen connections with friends, or trying to improve communication in the workplace, this book is a valuable guide.
I highly recommend The Relationship Cure to anyone who is interested in building stronger and more fulfilling relationships. If you are willing to put in the work, the rewards are sure to be significant.
I give this book a rating of 4/5, based on its practicality, accessibility, and effectiveness.
